Rates (including VAT)

• Single session: €198,- 
• 5 sessions: 10% discount
• 9 sessions: 15% discount

If you choose to explore your path together, it can be powerful to give your relationship the time and space it needs to unfold.

A series of sessions creates room for deeper insight, gentler pacing, and lasting change.

A counseling trajectory -gently supported by modest discounts - can offer the space and continuity you need for meaningful change.

Self-acceptance | Sexuality | Intimacy | Merging | Separation | Avoidance | Playfulness | Dependence | Autonomy Conflicts | Violence | Growth | Communication Change | Children | Illness Addiction | Gender Identity | Sex | Attachment | LGBTQI+ | Drama Triangle

Good relationships aren’t a matter of luck – you can shape them together

You matter to each other. And yet…

• You sometimes lose one another
• Or you get stuck in patterns that leave you wondering, “How did we end up here again?”
• Or perhaps you feel there’s more possible between you – more love, closeness, freedom, connection...

IFIO – Intimacy from the Inside Out– is a surprisingly powerful way to get to know yourself and each other more deeply. With curiosity. With courage. And… with a generous dose of compassion for yourself and the Other.

Toni Herbine-Blank, the creator of IFIO, adapted the IFS model to relationships. She does so in a way that’s both practical and profound – and perhaps most importantly, in a way that offers hope. That more nourishing togetherness is possible.

Your Self as a safe foundation
In IFIO, you learn to appreciate your Self as your first and most important attachment figure. From that place – grounded and steady – you can be in relationship with the one you love. How beautiful would it be if your relationship or friendship were no longer the site where your attachment wounding informs your interpersonal dynamics, but becomes the space for healing and growth together?

Who is it for?
Whether you’ve just begun your journey together, have been a couple for years, or find yourselves wondering where things are heading – you are welcome.

🌀 At the beginning – to consciously shape a loving life together
🌀 In the middle – right in the thick of it
🌀 At the end (or at a crossroads) – to explore what’s still possible

You’re welcome with your partner, but also with a close friendship, a chosen family bond, or a blood relative. If there's a shared desire to meet each other more deeply and invest in your relationship, IFIO is a beautiful way to do so.

What do we do in the sessions?
In a safe and supportive setting, we make space for each person’s inner world. You’ll learn to recognize which parts of you take over when things get tense – and why. You’ll learn to listen to those parts with more Self – with compassion and calm.

That way, you not only give yourself more space, but you also become more available to the Other. Together, you’ll discover how old patterns show up in your dynamic – and how to step out of them with warmth and strength.

Co-regulation, Curiosity, and Courageous Conversations
There’s something magical that happens when you dare to turn inward while the significant Other is present. Not running away, not attacking — just being.
Instead of speaking fromthe parts of you that protect or feel hurt, you learn to speak foryour parts. Once you begin to see what moves the Other, and what makes you respond the way you do to what’s happening, space begins to open up. For softness. For repair. For new connection.

From Rupture to Repair
Relationships aren’t about avoiding conflict as much as they’re about learning to be with it in a nourishing way. IFIO offers tools to move together through these cycles: from trust, through friction, to repair. Growing in skill. Growing in love — for yourself and for the Other.

Practical Info

📍 Location: Sessions take place in Rotterdam, at the Wijnhaven (10 min walk from Station Blaak), or online.

🕰️ Duration: 90 minutes (up to a max of 2 hours)

💶 Fees:

• Single session: €198
  
• 5 sessions: €891 (€99 discount – 10%)
  
• 9 sessions: €1.515 (€285 discount – 15%)

You are welcome.

With everything that is here.

In love, in struggle, in doubt, or longing.

Let’s move together toward more connection, more clarity, and more choice in your relationship.